Many single people complain that Valentine’s Day is just for couples. Not so in my mind. I have been single for almost 15 years and Valentine’s Day is one of my favourite days. I turned it into my very own tradition and love it.
First off, you have to understand that if you are truly a Romantic – romance is within – just like happiness. Find what is romantic for you – it might be a place; or a behaviour; or a season; or a food; but look within yourself and identify all your own romance. For instance, for me, a very romantic thing is to put the fireplace on, have a good cup of hot chocolate, a great book, and time to myself….no one to ask anything of me, but just to be.
For you, it might be a hot soapy bath; or a walk on the beach; it might be having dinner with your best friend…you decide…its your life…you get to make the rules.
Secondly, we usually associate Valentine’s Day with love. I love the Buddhist understanding of love: whether to love the self or another, you have to completely accept the person (you or the other) as they currently are; and at the same time be pushing the person (you or the other) to reach their greatest potential. I take the Valentine’s day opportunity to simply accept the self as I currently am – with my strengths and weaknesses, my pleasures and woes, and simply be. (I spend most of the time pushing towards a greater potential, this is my day to just be.)
My favourite all time dish is Lobster Thermidor. So I make myself a special Lobster Thermador every Valentine’s Day. I set the table very romantically – I love the red tablecloth and white candles and white dishes. I buy myself a lovely red rose and set it on the table. I make a special fruit cocktail (I have never drank alcohol). I put the fireplace on. I put my favourite music on. And I celebrate all my blessings in life.
Now, I could share that with some one else, or I can simply celebrate it on my own. It doesn’t really matter, because I am the romance…what matters is that I experienced a beautiful romantic day; loved the self; and felt totally blessed.
Here’s to you creating your beautiful day. Happy Valentine’s Day.